I just lost my job. The house is a total mess. I don’t have enough money. My health is poor. I’ll never get out of this dead end job.
These are all crushing thoughts. What’s more, is when you think negatively and feel stressed, the hormone, Cortisol, is released, making you not only worry but also feel terrible. This combination of factors leaves you feeling out of control and hopeless. Feeling out of control of your life can lead to feelings of anger, sadness, and despair. Feelings of hopelessness can lead to thoughts of confusion, depression, and anxiety. I surmise that not one person wishes any of these feelings upon themselves, yet, they do not take the time to examine their thoughts and feelings and strategize how to make them subside.
Taking the opportunity to meditate on your thought life is exceedingly important to being realistic, hopeful, and happy. Thinking of only the negative is not logical, as it completely ignores all that is good, which houses an entirely different set of data points than negative thoughts. According to Melinda Smith, M.A.; Robert Segal, M.A.; and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., there are a number of ways to help you let go of illogical and defeating thought patterns. Here is a list of negative types of thinking that we all face at times.
Take the time to examine your thoughts. Do you implement any types of these thoughts? Let these types of negative thoughts help you to change yours. Give yourself a gentle encouragement to accept what it is your cannot change and the bravery to change the things that you can. This will help you to feel more control of your life. Along the journey to more powerful and positive thinking, be careful not to beat yourself up when you fail. Give yourself compassion. Open your eyes to what is good, as well as what is bad. Then, formulate a strategy to change the things you can and encourage change in the things you cannot. This new year of 2017 does not have to be depressing and anxiety causing. Train your thoughts to be more productive for you, and you will see beautiful results in your mind and your life.